Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Every Little Thing

Two weeks ago, I went to see The Scottsboro Boys, an amazing musical about a terrible tragedy in American history. Using the framework of a minstrel show, a terrifically talented cast of black actors and the irrepressible John Cullum tell the tragic tale of the repeated trials and convictions of nine black youths falsely accused of raping two white women in Alabama in the 1930s. At the final curtain, I was on my feet, tears streaming down my face, overcome by the thought of how much suffering humans inflict upon one another.

Although The Scottsboro Boys is about the racism of American whites against blacks, my tears were also for all the Jews killed by Christians, the Protestants killed by Catholics and vice-a-versa, Darfur, Somalia, Israelis and Palestinians, Muslims and Hindis, and on and on. It made me think about the fact that as long as humans have existed, we have found ways to classify ourselves in relation to others. Classification - dividing people into "us" and "them," is the first of the 8 stages of genocide, the ultimate and most extreme expression of prejudice and racism.

Why are there such extreme expressions of hatred in the world? The Yoga Sutras teach me that all of the violence I see in my world is caused by the way I have treated others in the past.

There is a connection of cause and effect: the seeds ripen into experiences refreshingly pleasant or painful in their torment; depending on whether you have done good to others or done them wrong instead. Book II.14

There is no option of separating myself from what I see. I can't blame it on someone else, or claim that it has nothing to do with me. My karma causes not only what I see, but the perception of the "me" who sees it. But I am a good person. I volunteer. I help others. I am kind and compassionate. How could the violence I see come from me? According to the commentary to the sutras:

It's crucial to realize that mental seeds act just like physical seeds. No one puts a corn seed into the ground and then stands there, expecting corn to pop up in a day or two. Mental seeds are planted in the mind simply by our being aware that we are doing, or saying, or thinking something toward someone else. Seeds enter the storehouse and wait to be called up, like airplanes standing in line to take off. The Essential Yoga Sutra, Geshe Michael Roach & Lama Christie McNally

So how does this connect to me and the violence I see in the world? Saturday, as I was leaving my house to teach yoga, I saw someone I know in town walking his dog. The thought flitted through my mind: "He's a bit peculiar." This was followed immediately by another thought: "He'd have to be to be odd to be married to __________ - she's such a character." I saw myself think these thoughts and immediately stopped short. Wasn't this a small way of classifying people as us (normal ones) and them (the odd ones)? And don't I/we think thoughts like this all day long? Just as a small acorn produces a giant oak tree, our small mental seeds manifest as much bigger experiences. Unchecked, these thoughts -- the thoughts I/we are thinking about others all day long -- grow into all the violence and hatred we see around us.

Here's the good news. It is possible to destroy these karmic seeds. 1. Recognize the ignorant/negative thought you have had. 2. Remorse: feel genuine remorse - not guilt - with the understanding that you are ultimately harming yourself. 3. Resolve: make a realistic resolution not to do this for a reasonable period of time - a few hours, a day, a week. 4. Remidiate: Take a positive action or thought to counteract the negative one. Do something nice for that person. Meditate on love and compassion, etc. 5. Absolve yourself. Don't beat yourself up. Just resolve to do better. (More on karma here.) Dedicate all of these steps to the negative seed and it will die.

And more good news: If you make it a way of life never to hurt others [and this includes thinking negative thoughts about others] then in your presence all conflict comes to an end. Yoga Sutras Book II.35.

Go see The Scottsboro Boys. It was incredibly well done and a story that should be heard. Watch your thoughts. If you catch yourself thinking ill of someone, stop and reflect. Maybe the reason that there is still conflict and prejudice in the world is because of the little thoughts we think all day long where we differentiate between "me" and "you," and "us" and "them. " And replace those thoughts with kindness and compassion. After all: We are here to awaken from the illusion of our separateness.- Thich Nhat Hanh

  • Whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. Bible: Galatians (6:7)
  • Even as I have seen, they that plow iniquity, and sow wickedness, reap the same. Bible: Job (4:8)
  • The life I touch for good or ill will touch another life, and that in turn another, until who knows where the trembling stops or in what far place my touch will be felt. - Frederick Buechner

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Mind Your Mind

Your experience of your life depends
on where you place your mind.
So place your mind with intention.
Be careful what you place in front of it.
Make wise choices about what you read, what you watch,
what you say, and what you do.
If you place violent images in front of your mind,
you will see them even when you try to turn your attention to peaceful things.
If you place loving, peaceful images in front of your mind,
this is where your mind will go.
Live simply and with few distractions.
Focus consciously.
Mind your mind.

Sunday, March 21, 2010

Hearing the Voice

At a workshop recently with amazing Lama Kimberly Theresa, she said that people often wonder where God is. In the bible, it seemed like God was always talking to people - not just through visions but audibly so that anyone can hear. But where is he or she now? Lama K said that the "voice" is everywhere, if we just pay attention. It is in songs we hear over and over on the radio or can't get out of our minds. It is in recurring dreams, or passages that stand out to us in books. But we have to be "present" to hear it.

In biblical times, people didn't have facebook, twitter, computers, and all the other ways we distract ourselves. We like to think that we multitask, but really, we just fracture our attention. Multitasking is a myth. This was made apparent to me (again) as I drove my 3rd grader Samantha home on Friday from Alice In Wonderland (loved it!). She and her four friends wanted to listen to the Lion King in the car. They were all singing along, and then started talking about the movie. After a minute or two, Samy shouted out, "wow, I completely forgot we were listening to the Lion King while we were talking." All the other girls marvelled about that too. Luckily, I wasn't deep in thought about something else, and heard this comment.

The next morning, on my way to teach, I stopped to get a muffin. On the radio was the song Breathe (2AM). This is the part I tuned in to:

Cause you can't jump the track, we're like cars on a cable,
And life's like an hourglass, glued to the table.
No one can find the rewind button, boys,
So cradle your head in your hands,
And breathe... just breathe,
Oh breathe, just breathe

Then this morning, I was watching Field of Dreams with Samy. This is a movie that I've seen a zillion times, but this morning I heard the following line for the first time: "You know we just don't recognize the most significant moments of our lives while they're happening. Back then I thought, well, there'll be other days. I didn't realize that that was the only day."

And I remembered what Lama Kimberly said -- that if we just pay attention -- we'll hear divine messages all the time. We just have to tune in. We have to place our minds with intention, and work on keeping our focus. Only then, do we have the possibility of really hearing. As Samy pointed out, when you turn your attention to one thing, you forget about the other. These were divine teachings -- from my little lama, from the song I heard at the bakery, and from the line I heard as if for the first time in "Field of Dreams." We will only recognize the most significant moments of our lives if we are tuned in. So place your mind well.

1. Those who wish to keep a rule of life
Must guard their minds in perfect self-possession.
Without this guard upon the mind,
No discipline can ever be maintained.

2. Wandering where it will, the elephant of mind,
Will bring us down to pains of deepest hell.
No worldly beast, however wild,
Could bring upon us such calamities.

3. If, with mindfulness' rope,
The elephant of the mind is tethered all around,
Our fears will come to nothing,
Every virtue drop into our hands.

4. Tigers, lions, elephants, and bears,
Snakes and every hostile beast,
Those who guard the prisoners in hell,
All ghosts and ghouls and every evil phantom,

5. By simple binding of this mind alone,
All these things are likewise bound.
By simple taming of this mind alone,
All these things are likewise tamed.

Bodhicaryavatara of Shantideva circa 8th Century
Way of the Bodhisattva
(Padmakara Translation Group, Shambhala, 1997 pg 62 )