Monday, April 27, 2009
love for everyone
leaps of faith

First, get still. Why is it hardest to meditate when it is most essential? The most important thing to do when you lose your balance is to find some stillness. Find the breath. Being thrown off balance is akin to losing firm ground. If you're wavering and wobbling, all of your energy is going downward -- digging in. So get grounded. It's impossible to elevate if you're not grounded.
Second, zone in on the feeling that prompted the reaction. Go through some of the flavors of emptiness. Consider: 1. This feeling is a changing thing. It will not last. 2. I can't control the fact that feelings arise; I can only control how I act because of them. 3. I had this feeling (as opposed to some other feeling I could have easily have had in relation to the same event), because I have provoked this feeling in the past. At some point, I planted the karmic seed that gave rise to this feeling. 4. There is more than one way to view this interaction. And how I feel about it depends on the label I give it. Changing the label can change the experience.
Third: Take care of other people. On Saturday, I brought Mariel in to Penn Station to take the train to Baltimore to visit a friend at Johns Hopkins for the weekend. When she went down the escalator to the train -- I had such a feeling of sadness. This was her first big trip alone, and seemed to foreshadow the fact that she is leaving for college in August. The feeling of loss and of change -- even though I know she's ready and it's time -- felt overwhelming. So I sat down. I wished her well on her journey -- may she be safe, may she be happy, may she be well. I thought about all the other parents who are experiencing their child leaving for college for the first time, and the fact that this feeling is shared by us all. I then looked around me and one by one, sent a prayer to every person bustling through the station: May you get to where you're going safely; may you be happy; may you be well. Just stopping to remember that everyone around you is striving to be happy and safe and is wishing for the happiness and safety of their loved ones is so reassuring.
Sometimes our faith gets shaken. But really, it is the only mode of transportation to happiness. I think that's why it's called "a leap of faith." Because when you fall off, you just have to leap back on board. There's a book I used to read to Mariel -- We're Going on a Bear Hunt, about a group of kids who go off looking for a bear and face all sorts of obstacles like mud, tall grass, a dark forest, etc., along the way. The book has a soothing repetition to it as the kids meet each obstacle -- "oh no! MUD! Sticky, gooey mud. We can't go over it. We can't go under it. We've got to go through it!" And that's how it is. We have to use every single event in our lives to find a way through. As my teacher Manorama says: It's not whether you hit the wall, it's how you climb over it. Going one step at a time, you can cross many mountains."
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
when the world was flat

Recently, I had a strong belief about the right course for an organization I work with. This view brought me into conflict with people I care deeply about, and the conflict caused pain to them and to me. At its core, the conflict was because I was viewing the organization and the people involved as being on the "outside", i.e., a multitude of separate objects and events distinct from "me." When I looked at the situation without putting "it" outside of "me," i.e., from the perspective of what would bring the most happiness to all concerned, and not from the perspective of who was right about the course of action to take, my investment in my plan of action dissolved. It seemed far less important than a course of action that brought peace and harmony to our organization. Where there is unhappiness in your life, question the view it is based on. Remember, for centuries people thought the world was flat.
Monday, April 20, 2009
holding onto that one pure thought

surprise teachings
Saturday, April 11, 2009
Sanskrit lessons

Thursday, April 9, 2009
love all as you love yourself

"Today, wherever oppression remains, Jews taste its bitterness. We remember, it is we who were slaves, we who were strangers. And therefore, we remind ourselves, you shall not oppress another, for you know the feelings of the oppressed, having yourselves been slaves in the land of Egypt."
These words meant that I could not view myself as separate and apart from someone or a group of people who were suffering. It meant that I had to stop and help someone in need, just as I would have wanted someone to help my ancestors. It meant that I could never stand idly by. It was the bedrock of my upbringing, from the stories of my dad's experiences as a volunteer in the south in the 1960s doing legal work for voter registration drives, to taking in strays, to my mother's pioneering work in the 1970s and 80s to help low income children be diagnosed and receive assistance for dyslexia, the same way that middle and upper income children were.At Passover, Jews are reminded of the story of our ancestors' flight to freedom and the hardships they endured. In Christianity, the parable of the Good Samaritan, often re-enacted this time of year, speaks to our prejudices and hard hearts toward suffering. It is good to be reminded of these stories. Face it -- who hasn't sometimes felt "better him than me," or "she got what she deserved," or "not in my backyard." We have all closed or averted our eyes from the unpleasant, thinking that we won't be touched. But the Passover and Good Samaritan stories teach us to love all people, not just those in our small circles or who are like us. We are so blessed; most of us have ample leisure time, relative prosperity, and safety to pursue our lives. Please make the most of this privileged life by feeling gratitude and working to relieve the suffering of others.
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
love your obstacles

Saturday, April 4, 2009
topics for meditation

Why? Because you will begin to see that things that appear to exist outside of and separate from you are really coming from you. And the way you perceive your world will begin to change.
Friday, April 3, 2009
the body is a losing proposition

This list is by no means comprehensive, but it's a start. Being tight bodied, wrinkle free, wealthy, successful are EMPTY of happiness in and of themselves. They are not guarantees of joy. Only your mind can bring that to you.
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
just sit already

Why is it so hard? For me, it was because sitting still and quietly meant I had to feel my life. And when I started, the feelings weren't always so good. I was in the middle of an ugly, contested divorce. I had stopped practicing law and was trying to make a new career as an artist. I didn't know if I was going to be able to stay in my house or raise my baby; I felt like my whole identity and everything I had planned was thrown into the wind. I didn't want to be "in the moment." The "moment" sucked.
But sitting still, and feeling my life, though initially so painful, saved my life. Just sitting and being, slowing down and stopping, observing and letting go, helped me to see what had gotten me to the present moment, and helped me to be open to the future. Now, it is the most important part of my day. And that's the key. You have to make it your priority. Just like you don't go a day without brushing your teeth or eating a meal, you have to decide that this is an absolutely essential daily practice. And you have the time. I finally realized that if I had the time to keep up with American Idol (isn't Adam amazing?), Grey's Anatomy (do you think Izzie will die?) and the Office (is Michael really going to start his own paper company?), I had time to meditate. So if you have the time to read this blog, or check in on Facebook, you have time to meditate! And taking a quiet walk, or gardening, or exercising, doesn't count. Sorry. You have to sit quietly WITH ONLY YOURSELF. And if that's difficult or painful, spend the time examining your feelings of difficulty or pain. Just do it!
Try these guided meditations with Lama Marut and Kelly Morris.
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